Though I love the excitement of the holiday season, I welcome the return to the regular day-to day living. I know that “real life” can feel mundane or boring after all the holiday festivities, but darling, our daily life is where the rubber meets the road. This is why one of the best practices I know is to ask yourself questions. Preferably in your journal.
It’s easy to look at what we want to DO through the rosy haze of the holidays. Or to get caught up in the potential of what could be when you reach your goals.
Our daily lives, though, can be a bit of a trap.
We settle into comfortable habits – be the habits good or bad – and find ourselves existing instead of focusing on our desires. And, baby, I get it. It’s easy to get caught up in the busy parts of daily living. Eventually, we lift our heads to the realization that we’ve settled into simply existing and making it from day to day.
We forget what it was we wanted to experience and who we wanted to be. And lose track of the goals we set in order to be happier in the year ahead.
I believe that every single day is an opportunity to start fresh and focus toward your desires.
If you set goals or made resolutions for the year stretched out ahead of us, now is the time to figure out how you’re going to achieve them. Because no matter how beautiful your desires and dreams may be, I know that you need some realistic tools in place to help you move from “dream” to “reality”.
If you vowed to create changes in the year ahead, this exercise will help you create a path to success.
Here are some questions to help you get focused before you get too settled into daily life and lose track of what you desire to experience.
Questions focused on your internal life.
- How do I need to adjust my morning routine to support my goals? How you begin the day sets the tone for the rest of your day.
- What do I need to do in the evenings in order to set myself up for success? A little bit of planning before you go to bed can set you up for a smoother morning.
- What is the next step I need to make in order to move towards what I desire? One of the biggest challenges people face is not realizing that the next step to a big dream is really a miniscule action.
- What excuses am I making? If you spend a lot of time making excuses, then, darling, that’s energy that is being redirected from your desires.
- Where am I playing the if-then game with myself? If you are waiting to live the life you desire until you reach some magical milestone (a weight, a dollar figure, a relationship status), the truth is kitten, you’ll never take action. You need to begin where you are. Now.
- Where am I getting in my own way? Our inner critics are often the strongest deterrents to us jumping out there. What do you need to do to remove the obstacles you’ve given yourself?
- What review process am I going to put in place to monitor my progress? Rarely do we give ourselves credit for the work we are doing, so it’s important to have a system in place to regularly review your goals. You need to evaluate what tiny steps are working and what is getting in the way.
Questions focused on your external world.
- How can my environment support my goals? Do you need to set up a better work space? Rearrange your pantry? Join a gym?
- What clutter do I need to clear? This can be physical clutter, but it can also be calendar clutter (being too busy) or mental clutter. If you want some help with clutter this year, consider one (or both) of my 30 Days to Clarity courses.
- Are the people around me helping me or hurting me? A big part of who you are has to do with those you surround yourself with. Though it may not be “easy”, you may realize you need to distance yourself from some folks in your world.
- How can the positive people in my life support me in my desires? There are always people in our lives that want to support our dreams, but without communicating what they are, they don’t have a true opportunity to provide it. Be willing to open conversations with your partner or a friend on what you are wanting and how they’re presence can help you achieve it.
Asking yourself good questions can be the key to breathing life into your desires.
Though many of us have moved away from a pen and paper society, don’t be afraid to write things down. Putting your goals, your routines, and next steps on paper are a tremendous asset to helping your brain focus on what you want instead of getting distracted.
Last, but not least, darling, don’t be afraid to get some help. Whether now is the time you hire a coach, make your best friend an accountability partner, or create a Mastermind, be sure and get support to help you when you’re feeling a little less strong.
Remember that on those days when you have a little less faith or are feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, that it will shift. Allow yourself to roll with your emotions and keep in mind that each day is an opportunity to start fresh.