We’re at the time of year when reality has begun to set in. Those resolutions we made as the past year was ending don’t feel as fresh. Or, well, as exciting as they did. There are a lot of reasons why. Sometimes it’s as simple as the goals not really fitting us in the right way. Or you feel frozen when it comes to taking action. I know you just want to make it happen with more ease. But it isn’t always always as simple as that, is it?
You come up with goals and visions for the areas of your world – personal and career. And believe that if you actualize that goal, it will give you a level of feeling successful, worthy and satisfied. But if you set goals based on external inputs only, it’s challenging to feel any level of satisfaction or success because the goals weren’t really your heart’s desires.
One of the strongest lessons I’ve learned is that sometimes, in order to achieve your goals, you need to set them from a space of how you desire to feel We’ve been exploring a variety of facets around the topic of feeling around here lately: allowing yourself to feel, choosing how you want to feel, and using that as a way to create goals that are meaningful.
The next step to creating truly meaningful goals is to dive into your dreams.
It’s time to great a big-ass-list of hopes and dreams and desires and goals. The best way I know to do this is old-fashioned brainstorming. Consider these questions:
- Who do you want to be?
- What do you want to have?
- How does the big picture of what I desire look? And what does that look like in the daily course of living. Think about the forest and the leaves on the trees.
- What do you want to create in this world?
- If you could not fail, what might you do? And how might you enjoy the journey even if you fail?
- What do I want in the short term and the long term?
- How do the tiny inklings of desire inform you?
- What big things do I desire?
Set a timer for 10 minutes (so that you don’t over-think it) and empty all of those dreams and desires onto the page. Once you create a list, then it’s time to edit it down.
Anything that smacks of “I should want” or “I’m expected to” gets crossed off the list.
After you list has been cleared of what others want and reflect your desires, then, it’s time to hone your focus. You do this, by choosing only one or two goals to work towards. Too many goals will scatter your focus and you won’t get anything done. Trust me.
You can dream big. And create soulful intentions. Your methodical side can surface and you can lay solid goals with milestones.
But unless you take action, you’ll just spin your wheels.
You get clear about how you want to feel and then you begin doing things that make you feel that way. Yes, my dear, there is a very important component to living the life of your dreams. Actually living.
You can create novels and symphonies in your head, but until you put pen to paper and record them, you’re not a writer nor a composer. You’re a dreamer. But I want you to achieve your dreams, and you aren’t going to be able to do that unless you take action. Don’t get me wrong. I love dreaming. I’m a huge fan of day dreams. I applaud you being a dreamer.
But taking action?
Darling, this is how you move into the Winner’s Circle of your own life. You do the work to make it happen.
This means not just join a gym, but put on your sneakers and actually go TO the gym. Or rather than think about writing a book, you need to schedule in time to sit down and write. And yes, if you want to eat healthier this year, you need to go to the grocery store, meal prep, and eat healthy meals.
Now, sometimes, the mere thought of taking action can feel paralyzing. It’s scary. It can seem like the scariest thing in the world. Why? Because, baby, when dreams are big they feel unreachable. And so, it’s too scary to even begin, because, honestly, where DO you begin, right?
The truth, though, is that that there’s a way to make dreams a part of your reality. By approaching it the way you would eat an elephant. Not in one single giant bite, but little pieces that are easier to swallow.
The actual way to achieve big dreams is to take tiny steps forward. Recognize that sometimes a step forward may mean a step back as well. When you break down the steps of what needs to be done to achieve a goal, then it removes big pieces of your fears.
Better yet? You’ve created your very own road map to the Winner’s Circle of your life.
And this is where the real magic happens, darling.
You see, darling, you don’t one day wake up and your dream has magically come true. Nope. You wake up and realize that you are living your dream because you’ve done the work to make it happen.
Are you ready to make it happen? Is it time to step into the Winner’s Circle of YOUR Life?
From the 30 Days to Clarity Series: Clearing Brain Clutter: Discovering Your Heart’s Desire
Now Available in Paperback
With a collection of 30 intriguing exercises, Clearing Brain Clutter: Discovering Your Heart’s Desire helps you to peel away everything that gets in the way of your truest, deepest desires. By doing the work right inside the book, you’ll learn to create a life that’s more resonant with “the real you” than anything you’ve previously experienced. In short, you’ll forever change your life for the better.