You Deserve to Be the Star in Your Own Life

I talk to women all the time who are, well, sick and tired of being sick and tired of how their life is going.

“All Set” by Gil Elvgren 1956They are unhappy, unfulfilled, and just don’t see how life can change.

They feel stuck behind the labels they’ve assigned to themselves. Mom. Wife. Sister. Grandmother.

They tell me about numbing themselves with food or alcohol or shopping.

They tell me that they are simply existing.  Going from one day to the next without any sense of purpose or excitement for life.

They tell me that if their husband would just be more romantic, then they’d be in the mood.  Or they tell me that if their adult children would just “get their lives together” then they could have more freedom. Or that if their mom would just get off their back, they could be happy.

They tell me that they don’t know what they want.  Or that they are afraid to ask themselves, because they are afraid of the answers.

They tell me that they feel ashamed that they’ve “let themselves go”.  Or that they don’t deserve to spend money on themselves. They tell me they feel frumpy and lost.

Baby, let me tell you something: I get it. I’ve been there.  I’ve done that.  I have said (or thought) almost every single one of those things.

I am here to tell you that you are not alone.I’m also going to tell you some real truth, so listen up:

Darling, there is a way out.

It is never too late.  You are never too old.  You are never too far gone.

You can make the choice the change your life, your world, your attitude.

I won’t promise you that it will be easy.  I won’t promise that it will be comfortable, but I can promise you that it is possible.

It doesn’t happen overnight.  It happens in baby steps.  But it starts with making the decision that you are ready for things to be different.

The only person that you can change is you. 

So, if you’re waiting for others to change so that you can be happy, you are going to be waiting a hell of a long time. 

You will never change you mother, your partner or your children. But you can accept them for who they are and where you are in this moment in time. (And you can show them that change and happiness are possible by changing yourself).

I understand it can feel impossible to get started. This, my dear, is why you reach out to others for help.

I don’t have the answers to make the changes in your life, but I do have something: the questions to get you started.  THIS is why I coach and why I created Make Your Inner Sex Kitten Roar.

I have so much love in my heart for you. And I have so much faith in youfaith that you can change and that you can be in love with your life.

You are worthy of love.  You are worthy of feeling sexy  and confident and desired.

You are worth investing in.

I can tell you the best thing I ever did was to invest in myself and get some help figuring things out.

You, darling, are responsible for your happy.

You deserve to be the star in your own life, darling, not the supporting cast.

Darling, isn’t it time?

Make Your Inner Sex Kitten Roar is a collection of the tools I used to be the star in my life. There are six modules of lessons, a companion workbook containing all the worksheets and writing prompts, and more.


And, no, you don’t need fixing or to be rescued, but working with a coach can help the journey. You can bundle Make Your Inner Sex Kitten Roar with 6 coaching sessions.


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Debra is a life coach, writer, and tarnished southern belle. She resides in Dayton, OH.