Let me tell you one of the secrets to creating a life you love: you can’t welcome the new into your life until you let go of the old stuff that is no longer a part of your path forward.
I’ve been reminded of this the last couple of weeks. Often.
The first thing that comes to mind, of course, is hanging onto stuff I don’t need: a sweater that has holes in it, those jeans that are two sizes too small, that book I didn’t like and am not going to read again.
Go ahead and gather some of those things and take them to Goodwill this week.
But there are other things, less tangible than old clothes and unsatisfying books.
Take our electronic lives, for example.
How many email addresses or phone numbers are in your phone or email address book that you will never use? Like the email address of a former co-worker, the phone number of an ex-boyfriend, the number for the fantastic Chinese restaurant that delivers to your old address, 1000 miles away.
It’s time to delete those items, darling. Go ahead. Delete. Delete. Delete.
Though it may seem as if these things take only teeny-tiny infinitesimal amount of space, they pull our energy away from what matters and what’s ahead.
So, a question for you, darling: What in your life may be robbing you of the energy you need to move forward?
Is there a secret you want to shed? Tell someone you trust. Or write it down and set it on fire (safely, of course).
Have you moved but have yet to change your address on everything? Darling, it’s time. If you don’t live there anymore, don’t allow the ties to hold you down.
Is there a secret stash of Easter candy just waiting to be eaten? It’s almost Halloween. Either ditch it or just go ahead and eat it. (Yes, I said EAT IT!)
Is there an old, outstanding bill you forgot about? Make arrangements for it to be paid. Does someone owe you money? Darling, it’s time to ask.
Do you need to apologize? Say you’re sorry. Don’t feel something was your fault? Apologize anyway. Are you withholding forgiveness? Baby, let it go. Because withholding forgiveness from others is robbing precious energy from you.
And let me tell you something, my dear: if the forgiveness you are withholding is towards yourself, oh, my darling, it is time to stop beating yourself up.
Sometimes, there are small things that pull our energy.
That burned-out light bulb that you keep telling yourself to replace every time you flip that light and it doesn’t come on? Go ahead, and just do it. Why wait? (For us, it was the garage door opener light just last week.)
The furnace filter that should have been replaced weeks ago, but you haven’t yet because you keep forgetting to buy a replacement? Baby, maybe it’s time to create a list. (Hey! We can’t be expected to remember everything!)
And that new pair of pants that’s inches too long? Take it to the cleaners to be hemmed, return it, or just give it to Goodwill.
So, here’s the real deal, kitten, about these little undone tasks: every time you come across one of these undone items or incomplete tasks, your brain trips up and your precious energy is pulled away from what really matters.
Undone things keep you off balance, unfocused, and stuck.
As we transition into these last months of the year, it’s a fabulous time to clean up all those outstanding things.
The big ones. The little ones. Even the in-between ones.
So, here’s one of the tasks I talk about with the Sex Kitten ladies and other clients: create a list of outstanding, undone things in your life.
All those big things that you’ve been putting off (mammogram appointment, outstanding bill, the offering of forgiveness) get added to the list. All of those little things get added, too. The light bulbs, the worn out running shoes you need to replace, and that junk drawer that needs to be cleared out.
This list is NOT something to beat yourself up with. I’m certainly not trying to tell you that you need to be “busier.”
But, baby, I know from experience that cleaning up all of those undone things will dramatically increase your personal energy.
It will allow you to move forward and focus on what matters.
I made my list last week. Are you ready to make yours? Or, if you don’t want to make a list, what one thing in your orbit is ready to be left behind so you can move forward.
Go ahead, darling. Give it a try. The only thing you have to lose is all of those uncompleted projects off your mind. Besides, you deserve to focus on what really matters.
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One of the biggest lessons I have learned is that you cannot welcome new things into your life if you don’t release some of the old stuff. You need to begin to purge things from your life. Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.
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