Create a Life You Love with The Three R’s

I t seems like only yesterday we were celebrating a new year, yet here we are Earl Moran 5in the sixth month.  One of the laments I hear from clients is they feel we’re half-way through the year, yet they haven’t made enough progress on any of their desires for the year.

It can be easy to just throw in the towel and say all kinds of mean things like “you never do manage to meet your goals” or “may as well give up til next year”. So often, people complain that their New Year’s resolutions and big goals rarely make it beyond February. It’s easy to listen to that inner critic when this happens.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. Each and every moment, you get to start fresh. I know that can be easier said than done, so all month in the blog I’m going to be sharing some of my favorite tips and tricks to reignite your passions towards your desires along with ways to actively make it happen.

What I’ve learned is that sometimes, our lives flow differently from the calendar.

We are fast approaching the summer solstice, which is a spectacular time to begin fresh with the “Three R’s”. No, not the ‘riting, ‘rithmatic, and reading. I’m talking about reflection, reevaluation, and rededication.

Because, baby, you deserve to bring your desires into your reality. All of those desires, by the way. Those big dreams and audacious goals and those seemingly ordinary desires. And how to bring those to the forefront of your daily life.

The first R is “Reflection”.

So, how is life treating you, darling? What is making your feel alive? What do you do that makes your gloriously happy? What’s clicking for you? What are you simply tolerating? What do you need in order to feel more nourished in your daily life? What are you celebrating? What’s the most fun you’ve had so far this year?

Don’t just answer these questions in your head, write them down. Writing allows you to process and look back on your answers a little more logically. I also spend some time meditating around my guiding words (aka touchstones).

The second R is “Reevaluation”.

After you’ve done some reflection, then it’s time to reevaluate your focus (and maybe even your touchstones). What do you really want to create? What do you desire to do? Are the goals you’ve set for yourself still feel like they belong to you? Or did you set them based on thinking others would see you as “cool” ? Did you dive into a new activity or hobby that you just don’t really like?

Did you pooh-pooh a simple desire because it seemed too “small”?

What do you need to shed or add? What would make your soul sing? What one thing would you like to achieve in the coming months?

The third R is “Rededication”

Darling, it’s time to become devoted to yourself, which means giving your desires your love and attention. Treat your dreams the way you would a new lover. Commit to at least one thing you want to create, do, be or have. Then, shower that with your precious focus and attention.

Don’t forget that even small, tiny steps can create long and lasting change.

Darling, I believe that you can create a daily life that you love. One that feels loving and nourishing and bigger than you thought was possible.

Creating a life you love is about the big things, like a plan and touchstones. And it’s also about the little things, like morning coffee on the deck and holding hands while you take a stroll. You deserve a life filled with everyday magic.

Choose yourself. Remember your deepest desires get to be priority. It’s time to create a life you love, kitten.

Next week, I’ll be back to share some ways to bring your biggest dreams and your most sacred ordinary desires into your daily living. For this week, though, give yourself the permission to jump off a cliff of faith towards those big audacious goals and those sweet desires.

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Life coach Debra Smouse helps women feeling overwhelmed by life and/or their schedule recreate their life into one worth falling in love with. A self admitted tarnished southern belle, she now resides in Dayton, OH with the man of her dreams.
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